Dealing with Relationships

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And mark that you do this with humility and discipline – not in fits and starts, but steadily, pouring yourselves out for each other in acts of love, alert at noticing differences and quick at mending fences.”           Ephesians 4:2-3 (The Message)

This week as we continue our series on Paul’s letter to the Colossians we will take a look at what Paul has to say about relationship in our lives.  The highs and lows of relationships can be very dramatic. At times you can experience the high of joy and the low of disappointment, sometimes within minutes of each other.

When you find yourself struggling with each other’s faults, go to God with your disappointments.

When we find ourselves in difficult relationships, many times they begin with disappointments. Disappointments come into relationships because none of us are perfect. We have an idealized view of love, relationships, and marriage. Because of our view of how these relationships should be, we are often disappointed with the reality.

We will never have the perfect wedding or the perfect marriage or the perfect family because each of these is made up of imperfect, sinful people. The idea that two imperfect people can come together and have a perfect relationship is unrealistic. You need to adjust your expectations.

Not only do expectations play a part in our relationship but another reason  we are often disappointed in our relationships is because we’re asking another human being to meet needs that only God can meet. Another human being is incapable of promising that they will always be with you or that they won’t fail you. Only God can meet those promises. He tells us in his Word, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Joshua 1:5).

Only when we get to heaven will  we find no more disappointment or pain. Until then, you can choose to keep loving. As 1 Corinthians 13:7 says, “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance” (New Living Translation).

I am looking forward to seeing this weekend.


Pastor Bill