Do You Have A Challenging Relationship?

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   “We always thank God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, when  we pray for you…”

Colossians 1:3

Last Sunday we began a new series on the Book of Colossians and as I read this verse I thought: “Isn’t it encouraging when you know people are praying for you?”

If you have a relationship that you are struggling with, let me suggest this: I have found that the quickest way to change a relationship from bad to good is to begin thanking God in prayer for these people.

I have found that praying for them will do two things: (1) change your attitude and  (2)change them.

Taking time to pray positive prayers is much more powerful than just have positive thoughts. People may resist our help, reject our suggestions and choose not listen to our suggestions, but they are powerless against our prayers.

When you say to somebody, “I’ll pray for you” what does that mean?  Most of us are really good at praying in times of crisis but when it comes to normal life, what do you pray? The more specific you are in your prayer requests, the more specifically you are aware when you get an answer.

In Philippians 1:9-11, Paul is specific in what he is praying for people. “So this is my prayer: that your love will flourish and that you will not only love much but well. Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings so that you love is sincere and intelligent, not sentimental gush. Live a lover’s life, circumspect and exemplary, a life Jesus will be proud of: bountiful in fruits from the soul, making Jesus Christ attractive to all, getting everyone involved in the glory and praise of God.” (The Message)

These verses give you four things you can pray for people today –

1. “That your love will flourish …” Pray that they will grow in love.

2. “Use your head and test your feelings …” Pray that they make wise choices.

3. “Circumspect and exemplary, a life Jesus will be proud of …” Pray that they will do the right thing.

4. “Bountiful in fruits from the soul …” Pray that they will live for God’s glory

I look forward to continuing our look at our “Old Life and Our New Life” together this weekend.

Pastor Bill Vaughn